How do you know if your advice is right for the situation? how do u know how it is to be in a specific situation? and are you perfect enough to judge anyone? do we know what the other person is going through? how can we know thoughts of theirs?? how is it, that we judge another by our morals? are our morals right?? isn't it true that 'one man's bread is another's poison' ??
these are just random questions that popped into my head when a couple of us were discussing a friend of ours. she's nice and smart but there seem, to me, to be innumerable faults that just so shadow the good...see...i'm making a judgement here...and all of us have always passed judgements on her and her behaviour these past couple of years...
she went away to study,study abroad. now, she's coming back...and i dont know if i want to meet her....i dont know if i'm being a bitch here, for she has never done anything to annoy me or get me to hate her...but there are things she has done... to people i know and general things.. i don't think i respect her too much really.... but then again who am i to say if what she did was right or not?
maybe that is her way of reacting to incidents and happenings...all of us react in different ways to different things... maybe more complicated ways... and for her defence i'll say this...she's not had enough tragedies in her life... more than most people ,me included, can handle ... and i admire her for that.... for actually being able to get on ... though it has never been that simple for her to move on...
i just dont know... i like her...but there are also things i could never forgive or accept.. and yes these are my morals(values..whatever) talking....
its simple enough to forgive...but forgetting isn't so easy and more often than not...the thing that needs or wants forgetting is something big enough to modify your perspective, of the world and all its accompaniments....
well saying all this doesn't exactly resolve anything... but i think i'll go meet her anyway....she's a friend and she's got more substance than some and we all know that nobody is without faults.... isn't it about overlooking the faults that make a relationship???
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I know exactly what you are talking about.
Hmm some times I feel life is too short to crib, bad mouth or dislike people, but then I go ahead and do it anyways.
Funny thing about Morals is one is never sure, while I decry some one for an immoral act, I am not sure if its bad or not!
thanx man...seems to me we're both on the same boat...very self-contradictory... funny thing...is my friend arrives more than a month from now...all this was triggered of by a mere passing of information from one to another!!!
A human faces this dire need of being judgemental at times. It not only important 2 make choices for oneself, but its also important 2 reflect on choices tht others have made. This is a learning process. All u have to remember is tht this learning process is by no means a way to defame or brand someone. Love yrself but hurt no one:)
hi...came to ur blog thru innumerable links ... like ur style of convincing urself... its good ... most of us know wats rite and wats wrong but wish to negotiate and then convince the things with ourselves ... isn't this amusing !!!
fakereality..its a funny way to address someone...it weird to say..'dear fakereality'...well anyway replying to what u said...yea i guess everything everyday is a learning process...but there are still no right conclusions..or wrong ones...just choices,circumstances and consequences...maybe i can call them the three C's!!
hey pawan...i'm not sure if u are a pawan i know...but thank u...and well arent we always looking to be the one who is right and for someone to second taht opinion!
Hey Meera,
U bet...on the contradiction part. Just imagine the effort we spend in thinking bat unnecessary stuff, bloggin responding etc....but good I atleast got a new interesting blog to read ...:)
hi .... i don't suppose i know u in any of the way ... and to replies ... its better if u comment on the other's person blogbook, so that he can read ur reply in time ...just a suggestion for the facilitation of ur friends ....
anish_186@yahoo.com
Anish
hi.....nice to see ur suggestions .... try to improve on that .... :)
arr meera....I think u shud add a shoutbox to ur blog !
ok anish..wht the hell is a shoutbox?? i aint that comp savvy man!! and the email was for???
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